Forbidden Relationships...aka Love Wins!

Approaching God as a Nation, as Families, and as Individuals

Acharei Mot and Kedoshim (Leviticus 16-20) are about how we are and are not to relate to God. Since marriage is an image of our relationship to God, they contain many examples of forbidden human relationships.
  • Leviticus 16 – Approaching God as a nation.
  • Leviticus 17 – Approaching God as individuals. Things that will prevent closeness.
  • Leviticus 18 – Mistakes other peoples made in their relationships. Judgment as a nation and as individuals.
  • Men with women
  • The offspring of relationships between men and women
  • Men with men
  • Men and women with animals
  • Leviticus 19 – Being set apart from other nations by a healthy relationship with God and each other.
  • Leviticus 20 – Refusing to be different creates unhealthy relationships with God and each other. Don’t blow it.

The Only Love that Matters

In Leviticus 19, God said, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." In Leviticus 20, He said "If a man lies with a male as with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination; they shall surely be put to death."

There is no contradiction. Love means doing what's best for people. It means refusing to tolerate behaviors that destroy the community & its relationship with God.

Celebrating spiritual disease is cowardly. It's an excuse to avoid speaking the hard truth that homosexuality is perverse rot. It's death. Love doesn't see a person committing suicide and say, "Oh, how sweet! Love wins." What vile filth has infected people's souls that they could possibly entertain such things?

No, love says to the man drinking poison, "Stop! No more!"

This is love by God's standard, the only standard that matters: "You shall therefore keep all my statutes and all my rules and do them." (Lev 20:22a)


Open sexual perversion defiles the entire nation, not just those who practice it. The closer a nation is to God, the quicker and more severe is the ruin brought on by their wickedness. Things that will bring a nation to ruin: perversion, blood-guilt, idolatry.

Do you want to save America? Then don't tolerate open perversion. End abortion. God won't wait forever.

Fortunately, forgiveness awaits the penitent. "I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked."

Prohibited Degrees of Kinship

There are numerous methods of charting degrees of consanguinity floating around out there, so I thought I should post something about my own. Especially since I have mentioned elsewhere that God prohibits marriage to anyone closer than the fourth degree. 

Ancestors and descendants, aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces, and siblings are all out of bounds. First cousins are acceptable. At least to God. You might feel differently. 

Don't use this chart for legal purposes, of course. Many jurisdictions define the degrees differently.

God's Law prohibits marriage with 1st, 2nd, or 3rd degree relations. There are rare, marginal cases that are not addressed or that don't fit neatly into this hierarchy, but that's why God gave us minds and spirits.


Two Sons, Two Kingdoms

Genesis 44:27-29 And your servant my father said to us, You know that my wife bore me two sons. (28) And the one went out from me, and I said, Surely he is torn in pieces. And I never saw him since. (29) And if you take this one also from me, and mischief befall him, you shall bring down my gray hairs with sorrow to the grave.

I frequently wonder if Jacob knew the details of the future history of his sons. Although he certainly only meant Joseph and Benjamin here, his words and the story that followed prophesied of events centuries away.

In the 8th century BC, the Assyrian armies captured the northern kingdom of Israel and scattered her inhabitants across the Ancient Near East. Many of the old prophets referred to the northern kingdom as Ephraim, the son of Joseph. Ephraim didn't stop in Persia but continued across the whole globe. In their long diaspora they have forgotten their identity and have become lo ami ("not a people").

Three hundred years later, Judah was invaded and scattered by Babylon. When the two kingdoms split during the reign of Rehoboam, Benjamin became part of the southern kingdom known as Judah. Remember that Paul was of the tribe of Benjamin. Unlike Ephraim, Judah never forgot their identity. They have remained a relatively distinct people to this day.

This is a possible prophetic meaning of Jacob's statement:

Joseph, by way of Ephraim, the northern kingdom of Israel, is the first son. He was taken away, and, to all appearances was destroyed forever. Benjamin is the second son. He was taken away with Judah, the southern Kingdom, but was never in any real danger of being annihilated. Both of Jacob's sons were restored to him, and both of the houses of Israel will also be restored to their Heavenly Father. The house of Judah is returning to the Land en masse, bringing Benjamin with them, while the house of Israel is awakening to their identity and bringing much of the rest of the world with them. The first stage of Hosea's words concerning Israel was fulfilled millennia ago (Hosea 1:9). The second stage is coming to pass right now (Hosea 1:10), and the third stage, the reunification of the entire nation under the singular banner of the Messiah (Hosea 1:11), cannot be far behind!

(Please don't assume I am applying the term "Ephraim" to anyone but the physical descendants of Ephraim. I'll leave the precise tribal affiliations of the mixed multitude up to Yeshua when He returns.)


Love is the Law


  • If you love God, you will obey his commands.
  • If you are not obeying God's commands, you do not love God.
  • If you love God, you will love your neighbor.
  • If you do not love your neighbor, you are not obeying God's commands.
  • If you do not love your neighbor, you do not love God.

What, then, does it mean to love your neighbor?

Funny you should ask. God gave us a book all about it.

Update: After I wrote this, I listened to another sermon from Jim Staley called "Love vs. Law." It's good, but quite long.

Questions and Answers on Christmas


It's beginning to look a lot like Christmas! Should it? I've read several discussions of the topic over the last week or so, and thought I'd throw my thoughts out there too. Specifically I want to answer three questions.

1. Should Yeshua's birth be celebrated?

I can't think of any reason why not. It was one of the greatest events in history, and God has a history of wanting people to celebrate great events. As long as it doesn't violate any of God's other commands, why not? Celebrate your own birth and those of your family and friends while you're at it.

2. Should Yeshua's birth be celebrated on December 25th?

This is, perhaps, a thornier question. I don't think many people seriously believe Yeshua was born on that date, but is that a problem? We should celebrate his birth in some fashion every single day! Since nobody can be absolutely sure on which day he was born, why shouldn't we just pick this one?

There is nothing inherently evil about any particular day on the calendar. October 31st is a day that God made just like December 25th, July 4th, and April 12th. There is nothing wrong with having a party, inviting friends and family to your house for a feast, or even exchanging gifts on those days. However, there may still be a problem!

God told Israel (with whom we have been joined) to "learn not the way of the heathen,"1 and to "learn not to do after the abominations of those nations."2 Of course, he did not mean "Don't do anything that pagans do." That would be absurd. Pagans sing, dance, and eat cookies, and there is nothing at all wrong with those things. God's intent seems to have been to say, "Don't adopt religious practices in order to emulate pagans or that are specifically pagan in nature." Does a peculiar celebration of Yeshua's birth held on December 25th pass or fail this test? Here are the apparent facts:

a) Yeshua was almost certainly not born on December 25th.
b) The date appears to have been chosen after the 1st century by gentile church leaders with little to no understanding of Torah and Jewish customs, and a strong desire to distance themselves from anything "Jewish".
c) A few church leaders of the day believed Yeshua had been born in December, but most seem to have settled on that day specifically because it was the Winter Solstice, an already a well-established holiday in most pagan religions, but notably absent from any of the Biblical holy days. The Roman church, especially, has a very long history of adopting pagan traditions and redressing them in quasi-biblical trappings.

God seems to have a habit of grouping significant events around particular days. Some of those days correspond to the Biblical Feasts, some of them don't. Since Yeshua is the focus of the Law, I'm willing to bet that all of the major events of Yeshua's life took place on or around one of the seven feast days. Here are a few examples:

a) Passover/Unleavened Bread/Firstfruits: Death and resurrection
b) Shavuot: Teaching in the temple as a child (and the giving of the Holy Spirit, aka Pentecost)
c) Rosh Hoshana: Second coming?
d) Yom Kippur: Day of judgment
e) Sukkot: Arrival in the Promised Land. Both times.

There are some very good reasons for supposing that Yeshua was actually born during Sukkot. While I haven't done the math myself (other trustworthy individuals have and you are welcome to check their work), it appears that John the Baptist was born around Passover. Yeshua would have been born six months later, which is about the time of Sukkot. Also, Old Testament prophecies (and John in the New Testament) talk of God tabernacling among his people, and tabernacling is what Sukkot is all about.3

I am not saying that everyone must celebrate Yeshua's birth during Sukkot or that anyone must celebrate his birth at all. I'm not even saying that it is wrong to celebrate his birth on December 25th. I am saying that the choice of that date seems to have been inspired by a desire to emulate a pagan religious practice.

Which brings me to Christmas trees.

3) Should believers have Christmas trees?

The origins of the Christmas tree are shrouded in even more mystery than the origins of December 25th as Christmas. There are a lot of theories with very little historical documentation. Here are some better attested facts:

a) Evergreen branches and lights were used as decorations by the Romans to celebrate Saturnalia. Some Christians retained this practice and might have incorporated it into their Christmas celebrations.
b) Many ancient peoples used evergreen branches as winter decorations to symbolize life against the cold of the season.
c) Some ancient peoples used evergreens to ward against evil spirits.
d) The first Christmas trees, as such, appear to have originated in Germany in the late Middle Ages. Nobody seems to know who started the custom or why.

There is nothing inherently wrong with decorating your house with evergreens. However, the date of Christmas was specifically chosen to correspond with the Winter Solstice, and evergreen branches and wreaths were used as decorations for Saturnalia, the Roman pre-Solstice holiday period, which corresponds to the Germanic Yule Tide, from which we get...Yule Tide and probably Advent. It seems to me that decorating with those objects as part of a Christmas celebration is dangerously close to emulating pagan religious practices while saying you are doing it for God. Maybe early Christians copied Saturnalia customs and maybe they didn't, but Paul said to avoid the appearance of evil. If you have evergreen decorations in your house normally, I don't see any reason to take them down, but I wouldn't put them up just for Christmas.

Christmas trees are almost certainly related to the many customs of decorating homes with evergreen branches during the winter. That, in itself, poses no problem, and the pagan roots of putting decorated trees indoors seem dubious. However, consider these words of God given through Jeremiah:
Jeremiah 10:2-4 Thus says the LORD: "Learn not the way of the nations, nor be dismayed at the signs of the heavens because the nations are dismayed at them, (3) for the customs of the peoples are vanity. A tree from the forest is cut down and worked with an axe by the hands of a craftsman. (4) They decorate it with silver and gold; they fasten it with hammer and nails so that it cannot move.

Clearly, God did not intend Jeremiah's audience to interpret this as referring to Christmas trees or even their analog in that day. The very next verse explains that he was talking about idols, carved figures used in the veneration of deities, but God's perspective is not limited to what's happening today. He knew 2500 years ago that we would be cutting trees down, prominently displaying them in our homes and buildings, decorating them with silver and gold, and bowing down before them to receive their gifts. And he knew that we would be reading Jeremiah's book. I don't believe in coincidences, so I'm going to play it safe and not put a Christmas tree up in my home.


1 Jeremiah 10:2
2 Deuteronomy 18:9
3 I don't buy the argument about sheep not being in the fields during December. They didn't have huge barns in which to shelter their sheep. They kept them in the fields year round. According to the US Department of Agriculture, shepherds in Montana around the beginning of the 20th century kept their sheep on the open plains through much harsher winters than Israel has ever experienced. Why shouldn't Jewish shepherds in the 1st century BC?

[Updated December 1, 2020.]



Does God Ever Give Permission to Sin?

I frequently hear people say that God allowed this or that sinful behavior because people are weak.

Buzzzz. Try again.

God does not allow sin. He never says, "Don't ever do this, but if you do, here's how I want you to go about it..." He just says, "Don't do that."

So, if, in the course of your Bible reading, you see that God said, "If you are going to [insert activity here], then do it like this," you can safely conclude that the given activity is not sinful. It might not be the best thing for you, but it's not a sin to make choices where God has given you liberty.